Mother daughter healing is always possible for you in the depth of your heart, even if your mother has left her body.
Early in my healing career, I thought daughters would be more injured by their fathers, whom they adored and needed love and approval from, than their mothers. I quickly learned many years ago, however, that the mothers, who were the closest to their daughters, had the most influence on their lives – and it was often a very negative one. Many expected their girls to be carbon copies of themselves, and expressed disappointment when their daughters naturally had their own unique personalities and tendencies. Others saw the part of themselves they reviled in their girls and were disgusted by them, even though it was really their own.
It was often subconscious; but not always. In others, there was an indifference; a total lack of attention and love. And of course, with many moms, the jobs of being a wife and a mother to her brothers and sisters simply left no time and energy to give the unconditional love, affection, and attention that young girls need.
Many simply were not only ‘not for’ their daughters, but were overtly hostile and ‘against them’. I write this not because there are no males in the same situation, but because it seems especially prevalent with mothers and their daughters in these unique ways.
It’s sad that so many young girls spent their childhood in loneliness, pain, and shame, with mothers not even usually conscious of it. Their daughters grew up to be women who live with these same painful, anxious feelings every day. This is the source of many wounded adult women with little or no self-esteem, and yet there is healing available. See my article titled Benefits of Inner Child Work.
Mother daughter healing is a big part of my work.
An innocent child cannot do anything so wrong; it’s the projection of the parents onto them. Yet they absorb it to their core.
If this pertains to you, please contact me.